Many of us have developed a habit that we are completely unaware of - Conditional Confidence.  Because of a lack in self-esteem, we find ourselves only being confident in familiar situations.  Instead of learning to develop self-esteem from the inside out, we've taught ourselves to gain confidence from sources outside of ourselves.  So we then only put ourselves in situations in which we know we can succeed because we've been there before.  Sound familiar?

​Well, this need not be so!  When you learn how to believe in yourself and in your power to make things happen, it enables you to step through fear and uncertainty and reach your full potential.

So how do we leap from the known to the unknown?  First we have to identify the traps we've become prey to & then​ use mindset skills to move past them.

​There are three traps that keep us from developing sustaining self-confidence:

1. Fear of the Unknown
We all get nervous when we do something for the first time and it's supposed to feel unsettling!  Not because you will fail but because you haven't developed neural pathways yet.  Your brain is like a map and the neural pathways are like the roads.  When you are trying something for the first time, a "road" hasn't been built yet but the more you try it, then the "road" gets built and each time it gets easier!

So how do we settle our nerves before that neural pathway has been made?  We can use visualization.  Visualization is when we imagine ourselves in the future having already achieved our goals.  You see, your mind does not know the difference between reality and imagination.  So when you visualize, you actually go ahead and start building that neural pathway!

2. Self-Doubt
When we play it safe because we are unsure of our abilities due to our lack of knowledge or experience, we limit ourselves from reaching our full potential. And each time we do this, we create more self-doubt.

We can overcome this habit with the use of affirmations.  Affirmations are statements you make to yourself that communicate positive messages about what you want.  So we shift our self-talk from "I Can't" to "I Can!" and in the process, we build a trusty new neural pathway!

3. Failure or Disappointment
When we have failed at something or had a different outcome than we anticipated, we often make the decision not to try again so we're not hurt again.  When we do this, we are allowing a failure or disappointment to define who you are but this label is not you.  It was just something that happened outside of you.  But when we learn how to separate ourselves from an experience, we no longer allow that experience to define us.

​One of my favorite techniques for overcoming failure or disappointment is Put It In A Box.  In this exercise, you literally do just that!  You right down the experience in a brief description and draw a box around it.  Then toss it to the side.  Next, describe out loud the facts of what happened - not your emotions.  Seek then to learn from it and often that means reaching out and asking for someone's opinion or help.  Take action based upon what you've learned, make a plan to fix/solve/prevent it and as Elsa sings....Let It Go!

For more information, check out my blog on Intuition: 
http://www.bebravebeyou.org/2/post/2020/01/use-your-intuition-to-find-your-mission.html

I hope this was of service to you!
Much love, 
Michelle

Does your child meet any of these traits? 
- Startles easily
- Learns better from gentle correction (versus harsh punishment)
- Uses big words for their age
- Has a clever sense of humor
- Doesn't do big changes well
- Asks lots of questions
- Is a perfectionist
- Is quite intuitive, seems to read your mind
- Is very sensitive to pain
- Is bothered by noisy places
- Feels things deeply

Highly Sensitive People are born with highly sensitive nervous systems that allow them to grasp subtle changes in energy - in both emotional and physical environments.  This makes them become overwhelmed by the emotional distress of others or in highly stimulating environments.

They have wrongly been labeled as hyper-sensitive and often asked why they can't just be like everybody else - but they most definitely are not.  As they represent a mere 15% of the population.  So from an early age, they can develop self-confidence issues if they don't learn to see their sensitivity as a gift.

Since children create a sense of self worth during their early formative years, it is important for parents of HSPs to realize their child needs more help creating self-confidence than the "average" child.

Parents can offer this help by:
1. Offering encouragement - so they know they are supported for who they are
2. Allowing your child to feel their feelings - teaching them how to manage them
3. Showing them their sensitivity is a strength - through perspective shifts
4. Validating your child's experience - by not discounting what they feel
5. Honor your child's ability to pick up subtle energy - intuitive training

I empower Highly Sensitive Children between the ages of 7-13 to embrace their sensitivity as a gift so they develop sustaining self-confidence.

My coaching practice is unique because I teach both intellectual and intuitive skills to foster self-confidence.  The Wisdom curriculum teaches children how to use the power of their minds and the power of their thoughts to create self-confidence, and my Reap program teaches them how to reclaim their personal power by tapping into their intuition for daily guidance.  Thus learning to turn obstacles into growth opportunities.

For more information, check out my blog How I Healed My Inner Child:
www.bebravebeyou.org/2/post/2019/09/eq-is-the-new-iq4146244.html
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If this sounds of interest to you, please contact me for a free consultation at [email protected]